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hey this is Leo for actualised org and in this video I'm going to tell you exactly how to let go of the past okay so how to let go of the past this is an interesting topic because well all of us have something in the past every one of us has something in the past that haunts us right something in the past that hinders our performance something in the past we keep going back to something traumatic something that made us afraid something that really hurt us something that really made us retreat into our shell and that thing is just robbing us of energy that thing is something we keep ruminating over we keep worrying about it whether it's going to recur again and that's just robbing us of happiness it's also robbing us of performance because we're always worried about it and we're always anxious about it and fearful about it and who wants that so how do we actually go about letting go of some of this stuff so that it's never a problem well the first point I want to make is that yes it's in fact very possible to let go of the past I don't care how bad your past is and I'm talking about very serious pasts so if you had some serious trauma in your past whether it was like something as serious as a rape or a death in the family the breakup of a marriage really the loss of someone you loved the loss of a business that you've started that was your baby whatever it is abuse that you had as a kid growing up health problems illnesses near-death experiences car accidents I don't care what it is you can let it all go if you want to you can so this is just a fact of human psychology is that it's possible to let it go you can work to let it go the only question is whether you will will you work to let it go and that's something that I want to help you with today hopefully you can see why you should you should let it go because the past is only holding you back a negative experience from the past is not doing anything positive for you in the moment and actually one of the reasons that you're holding onto it still and you're still thinking about it is because you think that if you do let it go that somehow your life will worsen somehow you're going to open yourself up to threats and I can relate with what you're saying I've been there I still am there in certain areas of my life about the past I still have certain hangups but all those hang-ups are hang-ups they're all robbing me on my performance and at least I recognize that I've done enough research and work on myself to know that all past negative experiences are are not something that I should be thinking about ruminating about holding on to I want to let go of all of it so ideally try to let go of all of it if you take away one thing from this video it's that you should let go of all the negative stuff in your past and you can so go out there and look for the answers I don't give you some right now so here's the ultimate answer for the past you got to understand what the past is right the past you think it's so real you think it's so vivid that breakup you had it's just horrible that time you had that near-death experience maybe had some really traumatic traumatic times real emotional distress I mean I understand it can feel really painful and yes it can be hard to like all that stuff but also it can be very easy to let go of it don't make this harder on yourself than it should be because here's why the past the past is a concept it's a conceptualization it's actually not real it was real at some point it's not real anymore the future by the way is not real as well the future is a concept the only thing that's real is the now right now this second what I'm saying that's what's real that's actually reality everything else is not reality everything else is a thought inside your head which is called the conceptualization so what's happening here is that you're putting an awful lot of emotion we'll charge and you're attributing a lot of reality to something that actually isn't real now this is actually a an idea that goes much deeper than just letting go of the past but it's very effective at helping you let go of the past this idea that the things that you think are very very real are actually not all right there in your head there conceptualizations that problem you think is going to happen tomorrow at work that's not real that's a conceptualization now you might say well I'm very sure that something bad is going to happen at work tomorrow I might get fired tomorrow I have very good reason to believe that I'll get fired tomorrow I already got some hints that I'm gonna get fired and you might make that case and you say well so I know that the future tomorrow it's going to be pretty real I'm actually getting a fire tomorrow no you don't know that that's a conceptualization you don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow the whole world could end tomorrow we could have a meteorite impact not only will you not live till tomorrow there won't be a tomorrow all right there won't be a job for you to go to there might not be a building there might burn down you don't know what's going to happen not really now that doesn't mean that you dismiss critical thinking that doesn't mean you dismiss strategy it just means that understand this is just a fact I'm just telling you a fact I'm not saying that this is right or wrong and this should change your actions in any way just a fact that the future is a concept and so is the past especially the past what is past is now just a memory in your head so it's in there and sometimes those memories get lodged really really deep it can seep in and the tentacles of that of that traumatic event can spread literally through your whole brain that's what's happening is you've got neuron connections and they're just kind of spreading and you have that experience you have that memory and now you got want to get rid of it you want to let it go so I'm actually going to show you right now how to let it go you want to know how to let it go all right so I want you to to think of something in the past that's really been bothering you something that is still traumatic something that you want to let go alright so think about it right now and just kind of bring it to mind feel it experience the emotions probably gave me something naked if so you want to let it go for for the fact that it's negative and causing you some pain so you know bring that back up feel it just kind of let it be there don't don't try to resist it okay now what I'm going to do is I'm gonna take you through exercise now you could watch this through and then rewind the video and then go back and actually do it or you can just sit back and do it as I'm talking right now so here's what I want you to do is I want you to sit in a chair back upright and I want you to close your eyes and I'm going to guide you through a little meditation here and we're just going to see how you feel and we're going to help you let go past all right you ready all right do this now actually do this I'm guiding you I'm taking the energy to guide you so go do it I'm not just going to put some effort into this okay so I want you to sit back and relax and close your eyes sit back relax back up and straight close your eyes okay now I want you to think about your breath think about yourself breathing right now just feel it feel your breath going in and feel your breath coming out keep your eyes closed throughout this exercise so continue to breathe and put your focus on your breath breathe in nice and deep and slow and then breathe out nice and slow and just keep all your awareness on your breath all your awareness is on your breath and keep breathing at your own pace nice and slow in and then out I want you to do is I want you to put all your attention into your body feel yourself feel your body all the sensations from your feet through your legs your thighs and your butt as it's sitting on the cushion of the chair through your back and up into your shoulders and up your neck and through your through your head and your face and then also your arms and your fingertips so become very aware of whatever you're feeling in your body right now your breath but then also how everything feels feel the tips of your toes feel the tips of your fingers feel your face feel the muscles in your face and I want you to relax your face your facial muscles feel the top of your head okay now as your eyes are closed I want you to pretend we're going to play a little imagination exercise I want you to pretend that there is no future you have no future just the future is completely unknown you're totally in the present right now you're just totally in the present and the future doesn't exist for you now I want you to imagine that the past never happened there was no past at all you just are right now and you always were right in the moment right now what you're feeling in your body the sensations the perceptions that you're having even the perceptions you're having through your closed eyelids that is all real that is now and the thoughts you're having as you're listening to me that is real that is now out and nothing else exists and just take that in don't think about it just be in the moment be totally in the moment right now listening to my voice and feeling your body and breathing okay so as soon as you're ready and you're comfortable go ahead and take a few last deep breaths and we're going to open your eyes and you're going to come back and you're going to start looking at the video again okay good welcome back so how did that feel that was an experience what was that an experience of that was an experience of the now if you did that exercise and you can still go back into it you can do it again and again what you'll find is if you really do it any list I'm telling you is that you get into the now you get into the moment you get into what is real and you stop thinking about the future and you stop thinking about the past and at that moment the now is what's real for you and everything else you really feel if everything else is concept right do you understand now that the rest is concept now you might say well Leo I understand that I mean I knew that already I know the past isn't literally real but it still affects me and I know the future is not real but I know we'll get into the future that now will turn into the future at some point and it will become real and that affects me as well yes it does so this one exercise it's not going to fix you forever you're gonna have to do more work on how to let go of your past but I just wanted to show you that you can because one of the things that you have one of the limiting beliefs you're holding if you're not letting go of the past is that you're thinking that you can't you're thinking this is something that's there it's going to nag at you forever and you're like how do I get rid of it how do I get rid of it how do I get rid of it well you just got rid of it you got rid of it for two minutes or however long that was that we were doing that meditation for you got rid of it this is a big realization half is to understand that the past only exists because you keep bringing it back up and you keep bringing it back up and you keep bringing it back up and you keep bringing it back up and you keep bringing it back up and you keep bringing it back up and you keep bringing it back up when you do that yeah it's going to stay alive you're literally rehearsing it in your head you're rehearsing you're passing your head that's keeping it alive how do you get rid of something you just let it go don't make it too complicated decide to let it go and stop thinking about it that's it that's the bottom line of it you can go and you can do therapy and you can do introspection and I encourage you to do introspection I mean learn your lessons about the past analyze it journal about it think about it talk with it with about it with a therapist talk about it with a coach I mean I talk about stuff like that in my coaching sessions all the time and I do this kind of work on myself because it's necessary but realize that you could just let it go just let it go right now just decide right now that whatever it is I don't care how bad it was just let it go and you're letting it go because you know that the past has no use to you you can't change the past what's happened has happened and it might have been bad it might have been horrible it might still be affecting you but you can't change it you can't change the past there's nothing you can do there's nothing you can do about it stop thinking about it stop worrying about it you think that worrying about it is somehow what going to prevent you from making that mistake again no it's not in fact what's going to happen is it's probably going to lead to some sort of self-fulfilling prophecy effect where you actually create that you don't need to be worrying about it all the time you don't it's not necessary you probably realize that already you're just not very explicit about it right this is why once you become explicit about it tell yourself that you don't need it anymore it's not serving you it's creating dysfunction maybe it served you in the past now it's creating dysfunction you don't need it it's like a fester like a festering wound you don't need it there anymore and how do you let go you just let go decide right now pause this video and say you know what that thing I'm never going to think about it anymore I'm deciding to cut it off anytime I get that thought again just from impulse from habit that I've built up over the past just cutting it off that's it that's they let go the past all right and the final point I'm going to make here is that really to let go of your past you need to have something that's going to distract you from going back to it stop just to really prevent you from going back to it you need to have something that you're going to be thinking about something positive something new that you're working towards so if the problem that you're trying to let go of is some bad relationship a broken marriage then come up with the new goal the new vision for you how are you going to get a new marriage how are you going to build a new relationship if the thing you're trying to let go of is the way that you were abused and the way that you were raised in this in this bad way then think about the new vision for yourself who are you going to become in the next few years how are you going to grow yourself how are we going to use self-help and personal development maybe some of the videos that I'm sharing with you how are we going to use that to get yourself to a totally new level to transform yourself see when you have a new project that you're working on when you have something to look forward to what's gonna happen you're gonna find it's just you don't have time to worry about the past personally I don't think about the past too much why I mean I've been fortunate and have too many horrible incidents but you know I've had some stuff in the past that still bugs me the problem the reason I don't think about it is because I have too much stuff to do I have too much spend too much time worrying about the future I spend too much time planning I spend too much time doing stuff here and now versus dwelling on the past don't have time to think about the past too much and that's what you need design your life to be like so you don't have time to just sit and ruminate about all that useless past garbage all right this is Lea Andra signing off this is how to let go of the past go ahead leaving your comments down below please like this and share this I want to spread the message and of course I'd like you to check out actualized I work our newsletter there is awesome we send out free videos every week with more information about how to master your own psychology you're definitely gonna want to check that out more information about how to 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